Patricia Pilie

On December 16, 2007 Patricia Pilie’, my mother, left this earth and it was then that I began to really know who Patricia was. This idea is a complicated thing to explain. The best way to explain this is that she was still discovering who she was until the day she died. After that, I really began to discover who Patricia was. Until the day of her passing, she was my mother. After that she became Patricia Pilie’ to me or otherwise known most affectionately by her friends and family. – Patti.

This doesn’t mean that I do not still consider her as my mother. It means I began to see her as two different people. There was the mother who took care of me and was imperfect. We had a contentious relationship at times but there is no doubt she was the best mother a young boy could have. Then there was the person that people told me she was after she passed. She seemed perfect in her own often humorously clumsy but grace-filled personality. It is interesting how in many aspects that this person seems different from the mother I knew. This is really what has made her special. I think that people that have lost a loved one experience a similar thing.  

The intention of this forum is to document, share, and celebrate the person Patricia Pilie – Patti - while trying to make the connection between her and my mother. Join me in sharing stories and expressing your thoughts on Patti while I introduce you to my mother.